Saturday, April 3, 2010

Code Gay

When Mrs Jude and I are out and about and one wants to bring attention to the other for an "our kind" sighting we use code because come on, we don't want other people to find out what we know.

So what we say is "benning alert". When the wife says it and I don't immediately beam my eyeballs in the correct direction, she'll point. Or if I'm saying the code she'll whip her head around so fast she creates a vacuum. So much for staying under cover and I'm usually the one that ends up having to nod or smile because the new found Bennings are looking at me.

My friends use other code words like "family", "sisters" or "beans". I'm sure the list is endless, similar to the colors and placements of the bandannas.

This is one of the zillion times I'm glad I'm gay because I don't think straight people have this much fun, do you?

Do you have a code word that you use? Share it here, but not if you have to shoot me after you tell me because I'm having too much fucking fun with life.

18 comments:

CrackerLilo said...

Me, my best friend, and our wives arrived at "looks familiar." Like, "Oh, she looks familiar!"

C said...

before diane met me she would just nod in that direction [so she says] but i have always said "i smell family" lmao! and now she tends to sat that, too.. yep, it is fun to have gaydar.... just like that guy radar on mash. only ours is for gay people not gay planes! bwahahahahaha


hugs to you 2,

c

greg said...

We say, "team." It started as, "look over there, they play on our team," and it has since been shortened.

I love spotting teammates!

dolphyngyrl said...

SweetPea and I use "dude", generally with a chin-point in the correct direction. Admittedly, "dude" is used for a wide variety of purposes, but, fortunately, we figure each other out pretty quickly.

When this would be inappropriate (i.e. we're very likely to be overheard), there's finger tugging and exaggerated chin pointing.

We're very sly.

Mel's Way or No Way said...

One of us usually says "beep, beep, beep" or A has used the term "PLU"(people like us).

How cute is it that your wife gets so excited that she has to point. :)

B said...

We have a "lesbian Target" here and we always say, "Three o'clock, six o'clock", etc.

notjustafemme said...

the BFF and i just make eye contact and we know what it means. then we'll comment later about our responses.

life IS good, isn't it? glad you're having fun, papa j!

alphafemme said...

straight people DEFinitely don't have as much fun as we do.

crystal said...

We just use "family" or a (hopefully discrete) nod...but all you guys are making me want to come up with something more interesting!!
Oh and yes, we have way more fun than straight people ;)

NewBo said...

We generally just nod and then whisper when the person is out of earshot. I'm going to have to do something more interesting from now on though lol!

livieandhermommies said...

Very simple: DING! : )
My hunney or I will say it, then a "discreet" head nod....


Have to say - just found your blog thru a friends link... Absolutely LOVE IT!!!

The Surly Mermaid said...

we say "she'd be at the concert" - comes from walking down the main street to get to the kd lang gig a few years back... and now it has stuck. we still giggle each time.

jelly said...

We usually say 'there's one' or something to that affect.
Why do you think we as gays do that, search out our own kind?

I've often wondered that.

P.S. Saw a of bunch of 'Bennings' as you would say, in New Hope this weekend. :-)

Jessi said...

I pretty much say "family". Kudos to you for being creative! :) I'll definitely have to think on that one...

small town dyke said...

It depends on the situation. I notice more than the wife just because she is clueless like that. We say family most of the time and try not to stare.

shane rocket said...

we just have to look at each other, an entire convo with the eyes!!!....
so no terms needed which is good cause i really despise the word "family", honestly i wouldn't want SOME of the hateful stupid gay people i have met as family. having gay in common is not all inclusive for me.

AWJ said...

"ding ding ding" usually means my gaydar is goin' off :p

canihelpyousir said...

My friends and I have used a few different things. "Talent," as in "I saw some talent at the gym" or "She looks VERY talented." Also, "batting for the Yankees." I have NO idea where that one came from, but it stuck.